I'm a trans woman, and my trans dating experience is quite complicated. As a member of many trans dating sites, I've received messages from Mr. Washboard-Abs-No-Face and many unqualified pictures from men and women. For trans women, finding a perfect partner seems like a new challenge.As a trans woman, I can't persuade myself to be friendly to someone hit on me, because I don't know how to tell them we have the common part. It is four years since transitioning in 2014, trans dating app has been my best way to date in these years.
I start my fashion career at 22, and I hope to become a perfect woman. For me, humorous and ambitious men are most attractive. In terms of appearance, I prefer to taller men. I will swipe right to like him, if I see a taller man on the dating app.
As a member of trans dating app, I will tell the man I meet that I'm a trans woman firstly, and make sure he knows who I am. We don't need to waste time on each other if he can't accept a trans woman.
Many trans women were injured or even killed by men, only because they didn't disclose their status at first. Disclosing your status is not only a way to show your honesty, but also to protect yourself.
As a user of trans dating app for a few years, there are 3 kinds of men I've met before: over-accepting men, semi-accepting men, and accepting men. It's often difficult to tell whether they are over-accepting men, semi-accepting men, or accepting men by their profiles.
Those who fetish trans women
I've met some guys, they fetish trans women only because of our body. They want to experience something new and different.
These men like to date me in somewhere private, and nobody knows they are dating with me. I've dated with some of these guys before, they were so cautious to make sure our date can't be find by their acquaintances. Some other guys were try to prove that he had nothing to to with me.
I'm a dark secret for these men. I used to think it's the only way for every trans women to date. A man I met 2 months ago changed my opinion, and he was beyond endurance. That's our first date, he stood far away from me, it seemed like he forgot my existence. He didn't care about me, so I ended our first date there.
Those who are curious but cautious
After ending my trans date with those who fetish trans women, I started to date with those who can really accepted me. Like ordinary couples, I dated with these men in public places. But I realized that I was regarded as a new dating experience, not a potential partner. After dating with a guy for several times, he told me that He cannot be with me because I'm a trans woman.
Those who simply don’t read
I date with a man recently, he is tall, humorous and handsome. We met in a coffee shop, and everything was going well. Then I told him"I'm a trans woman", he looked at me without any words. I knew that he cannot accept me from his blank face. Then he shouted at me"why you didn't tell me before?" "I've mentioned it in my profile, why didn't you read it carefully?" He left angrily.
Not all men are belong to these three types, I've also met some nice men before. No matter what happens, it is very important to find someone that really match you.